Doug D’Anna’s latest ‘e-Wealth Daily’ article is titled “The Pointless Art of Complaining”. [‘e-Wealth Daily’ Article]


Doug D’Anna’s latest ‘e-Wealth Daily’ article:

The Pointless Art of Complaining

Complaining about things is just pointless. If you listen carefully to people’s complaints, they even begin to sound a bit silly — immature at best.

Try this: write down a few complaints you have on a piece of paper. It may be a frustration you have with a co-worker, something that happened the last time you took your car in for
repairs — anything at all. Now, put the list of complaints into an envelope and seal it. Don’t open it up for a couple of days or a week. Read the list and see how insignificant those complaints
have become.

Did your complaining about it make any difference? Or was there something more constructive you could have done to manage the problem? Was there some tactful way you could have told your colleague at work that his pen-tapping was irritating you? Could you have made a change in a customer-service policy by responding to the mechanic in a different way? Change is in your hands. You just need to have the self-esteem to go from being a complainer who internalizes things to having the confidence and the diplomacy to handle issues more constructively.

Here’s something else you can try. The next time someone criticizes you, don’t push back. Go with the force instead and see what the result is. If your neighbor angrily reminds you that
you haven’t returned his gardening tool in over six months, tell him he is absolutely correct and apologize for your negligence.

Forget about how he approached you. The part that matters is that you have accepted responsibility and triggered an event that sets a course for positive action. Listening to constructive criticism and processing it well is another process in the journey to good self-esteem. Don’t listen to the negativity of the presentation. Take the underlying facts and use them to your advantage to learn all you can about yourself. What you will notice is that the next time your neighbor has a similar objection, he will approach you with less anger.

How we communicate is pivotal to transforming negative energy into positive. The words we speak have a huge impact on how we are perceived. Strong words for feelings, such as
“hate,” “despise” and “disgust,” only prove to demonstrate where our emotions and self-esteem are. People who swear constantly are clearly not in the frame of mind to be successful,
because they cannot express themselves. There are millions of words in the English language, and they choose profanity to mask their emotions. They fail to articulate their feelings and shut people out.

I want you to pay close attention to the words you speak from here on in. Do you use words like “no,” “can’t,” “won’t,” “have to,” “might,” or “maybe?” While they are common enough
expressions, they are the trademark of an unsure, less-than-confident person. Place certainty into your vocabulary. Think before you speak and put together expressive sentences that
truly reflect the way you feel.

Practice it in your everyday conversation and switch yourself every time you are going to say something negative. Rather than saying, “I don’t want to go to that movie; I hate Jack
Nicholson,” say, “I would enjoy a movie, but Jack Nicholson is not my favorite actor.” You’ll be surprised at how different your conversations are when you believe in yourself and put forth your ideas and opinions in a positive manner.

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